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The Awesome Power of Social Value
April 6, 2008, 10:41 pm
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Life of the Party

Most men want to know their women are beautiful. Most women want to know their men have worth. Learn how to create social value in yourself, and the ladies will become MUCH more attracted to you even before you display any other seductive traits.

Fame: What’s it good for?

Before dealing with physical strategies, I want to talk for a second about fame.

I know, this really separates me from the rest of the world, but dare to be different I say.

Fame is a major turn-on, for BOTH men and women. Why?

Well, let me tell you, the reasons are ENTIRELY different. For men, fame works if the woman is famous for her BEAUTY. If she’s a famous scientist, say, that doesn’t count. She has to be a universally recognized knockout. Get together with her, and not only are you the MAN for beating out so many other comers, but you KNOW she gorgeous. That’s what made her famous.

For women, it’s the social STATUS that comes from being famous. The respect, the dominance – the fact that you can skip the lines at shows, that you get preferential treatment, that you can show her worlds that regular guys can’t – which is the turn-on. You COULD be a famous politician, ugly as sin, but because you get free tickets to the opera, hey, that’s good enough.

That would never work on a man.

These sorts of things are HARDWIRED into us. Exactly what the hunter-gatherers were doing is hard to say for sure, but take a look at monkeys.

Of Alphas and Men

Chimpanzees are fiercely dominant and territorial. There’s one alpha male who gets to have sex with pretty much everyone. All the other males have to stay out of his way, if they’re even allowed to HANG OUT with the group.

It’s not unusual for the alpha male to literally squeeze the testicles off of a challenger. Out of respect for the victims, I’m foregoing all ball-busting jokes here.

If you’re a female chimp, who do you think you’re going to wind up going for? The alpha, who’ll at least take care of the group, or Mr. Soon-to-be-Castrated, who even if he has sex with you and gets you pregnant, those kids’ll just be killed by the alpha when they’re born?

The nature of the chimp selects those having sex with the alpha. Eventually –with human rationalizing when you get to us – you go from HAVING to have sex with him to WANTING to.

Nice to know that we humans aren’t the only screwed-up things on the planet.

That sets the stage.

Of Orgies and Men

But then there’s also the bonobo monkey, a lesser-known primate that’s almost as close to us as chimps. And these guys play with different rules.

They aren’t violent, for the most part. They live in a matriarchal society, and there really ISN’T an alpha system like elsewhere in nature. Instead, female bonobo have sex in exchange for protection and provisions.

Sometimes bonobo are literally having sex with the males holding bananas in their hands, promising to hand them over once they get their rocks off.

Sound familiar?

So which way are we programmed? Both ways.

Women are turned on by dominant alpha men. It triggers their lust, from all the THOUSANDS of years that women have had sex with dominant men.

And women are also turned on by men who can provide. It triggers their nesting instinct, their need for security and protection and, um, food.

The bonobo have a problem though. When you live in a world where women want monogamy AND it’s matriarchal AND gives a rational choice to the women about sex, merely showing yourself a provider isn’t going to work often.

The bonobo have sex all the time with everyone, so it can work.

How’s it all translate to us?

Humans don’t, so you wind up in a courtship that lasts months or years, with a woman who can always choose another provider. You aren’t triggering her emotion, but her logic, as a bonobo male.

Plus, most women aren’t walking around hungry for a banana. If only it were that easy.

The chimp alpha system, however, isn’t logical. It’s primal. Emotional. And the underlying understanding of chimp society is women don’t have the choice.

They NEED to have sex with the alpha.

When you get to the complex level of humans, this need becomes ATTRACTION.

Alright, let’s bring it home.

If the thousands of years of evolution have conspired to make women attracted to dominant males, how do WE become that?

Aside from castrating others I mean.

CREATE social value in yourself

Believe it or not, the process is pretty simple. And it all starts with relaxed confidence. Remaining playful because you’re comfortable in your skin. Secure in yourself.

Outside signs can be created, as well. Become friendly with doormen, get to the point where you can say “Hey Jimmy” and walk past the throngs and through the velvet rope at a few clubs.

Get to know maitre-des who can bring you in through the kitchen to a table reserved at a hot hard-to-enter restaurant.

Sound hard to do? It’s not – it just takes a little friendliness to the right people. Become friends with them, and you get the preferential treatment that says you’re an alpha.

When you’re in a group, remember that YOUR opinion is the one that matters most.

That’s where a lot of people get messed up – they think the alpha has to be the focal point, because he often is.

THAT’S not the key, though. Try too hard, and you come off as an insecure attention starved spotlight hog. The point isn’t to be the LOUDEST or to say the MOST, but to have the trend-setting opinion, which starts with believing in yourself. And NOT caring if others follow – they will, but not if they feel you forcing them.

If a scene-stealer comes in and tries to ruin your game, a simple eye roll and relocation – “Let’s go get a drink.” – is MUCH more powerful than entering into a limelight fight. It says you’re confident, in control of the situation, AND in a position of power, from which you can communicate “This is no fun, let’s find something that is.” You LEAD. People will follow.

And you don’t have to maim a soul.

A LITTLE arrogance can communicate that power as well, much better than some Neanderthal brawl.

So how do you compete with the famous, and trigger the lust that their power does?

Make Your Circle

You create a circle within which YOU are a star. You get the good table and the chef comes to it and makes off-the-menu dishes. The DJ requests a request from you. And your friends reinforce the aura of importance that travels around with you.

If you’re starting from scratch, it can take awhile to build a complete circle. Once it’s there, though, women will respond to it. POWERFULLY.

There’s nothing like being popular to increase popularity.

And the little ball busting you do is of the non-violent, playful variety.

From there, getting to WANT to translate your social value into sexual action is a MUCH simpler step. ACT powerful, and you BECOME powerful. And power on a man is sexy.

Derek Vitalio

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The Steps To Seduction Revealed
April 6, 2008, 10:38 pm
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The Steps

Here I concretely lay out what we’ve covered to this point – a step-by-step guide from meeting a lady to getting her in your bed. Follow these steps religiously and you’ll do tons better than the guy thinking “God I want to sleep with HER!” Guaranteed.

Where are we?

By now we’ve talked a number of times about the STEPS approach, how you need to focus not on bringing a woman home, but instead on going one further step down the path that will lead to intimacy.

Still, we haven’t specifically listed each step – and some we haven’t even specifically stated. So before we unleash your new crazy powerful skills upon the world, let’s make sure you know the path you want to walk.

The First Step

Have your place READY for a lady.
This doesn’t mean you need some insane Daddy Mac love pad with the potion of seduction enveloping every little item and cranny. What this DOES mean is you need your place presentable at every moment.

When you step out the door, is it dirty? Do you have old socks or pizza boxes hanging around? Would you bring a girl back to your pad, given its current state?

If the answer is no, you need to work on that spatial hygiene. Now you don’t need to be able to eat off the floor, but you do need your bathroom to NOT repel with its smell, your floor to be visible, and your general organization to be a cut above the mad professor.

Go too far and you look a bit like a neat freak – but that’s miles better than looking like a slob. The worst stereotype about neat men is they aren’t interested in ladies – and hopefully, you’ll be able to prove to your targeted woman that isn’t true within a few moments.

However, if you manage to elicit a lady’s disgust factor (and everyone has theirs triggered by different things – although generally, the closer you get to the toilet, the higher the risk) you can ruin a night’s worth of work. Nothing like having your place be a deal-breaker.

So, take the time. Keep it clean. Always. You never know when opportunity will present itself. Be a boy scout and be ready.

Even better, have your showcase skill or some other interesting object(s) in easy view. If you play guitar, don’t keep it in a closet, but set it up in your main room or bedroom in plain view. If you want to bring a woman over to “look at art” have the art book handy and displayed.

In other words, have the bait you’re using to lure to your lair in easy reach. When you arrive to show off that new CD, it looks more natural and genuine if it isn’t in the bottom of a drawer. If you want to show off your photo skills (one of my favorites), have your camera ready to go.

This isn’t rocket science. Just have a place that wouldn’t threaten anyone – and hopefully lends itself to playfulness and interest – and keep it that way. Easy. Still, plenty of people forget this, end a night prematurely because they aren’t ready to entertain, and never get another chance. Just don’t do that.

Be Clean in Every Way

Take care of your own hygiene. You’d be surprised how often bad breath is the deal-breaker. In fact, an offending smell is one of the most unattractive things known to humanity. Chances are at some time or other in your own past it ended what would have been a beneficial connection.

So, considering we lose any sense or our own scent very quickly, it’s best to play it safe. Assume you smell awful, and take the necessary precautions. Brush teeth twice. Bring along some sort of breath saver (I like the film ones because they’re small and make no noise in pockets). If you sweat, wash, and if you can’t wash, deodorize.

Cheap aftershave – used in MODERATION – can be a godsend.

As far as fashion goes, you don’t need to be straight off a Paris runway. In fact, unless you have talent in this area, simple is the best way to keep it. A nice pair of chinos and a plain black shirt is PLENTY as long as you wear it with confidence.

Flashier things can you some attention, but before you put them on you want to be sure it isn’t the wrong kind. Simple is fine. Really. Just look clean and fresh and you’ll have no problems.

Carry around an odor and stains and no matter how cool you are, your social value takes a dive and you’re cutting yourself off from most women (hot granolas excepted).

Create the Attraction

Be playful and fun and extend your meeting. This can mean getting a number or email, shifting your locale, or any of a million other things. The main purpose here is NOT to bring a woman to bed, but merely to ATTRACT her. All you need be concerned with is getting her interested enough that she wants to spend more time with you.

Best to do it with your relaxed and playful attitude, but if time is short, you can get a number with little more than confident politeness. Don’t worry about what comes later. Just get her into you to begin.

Lead her somewhere – together

Change locations. This can happen at the same time, or at a later date. This is where your scene-shifting skills come into play, where the fact that you are somewhere TOGETHER is both natural and enjoyable. If things are going well at this point you can shift quickly into physical contact, but at the least you should start introducing familiarities like hand-holding and relaxed (unpervy) touching. You’re building to a later point here, so don’t try to take more than is being offered – you’ll get turned down and likely lose a number of points, digging yourself a deep hole.

Just concentrate on establishing and strengthening your connection here. Again, that should be your ONLY GOAL. If want you really want is to sleep with this girl, fine. That comes later.

Don’t be the shortstop who looks where the throw’s supposed to go and misses the ground ball. Stay focused on your contact with the lady. The rest will follow successfully.

Get private

Now you’ve established contact, and the lady is into you. What do you do? BRING HER HOME. Her place or yours – whichever works with the seed you’ve created earlier (Have you heard the new Coldplay album?) Once you get her there, don’t rush things – she’s already basically said she’s interested in going further, but push too fast and you’ll turn her off and undo all the good you did earlier.

Instead, take your time here. In fact, if you wait just a little bit longer than she’s comfortable with – or play hard-to-get yourself (I don’t think you get to sleep with me just because we both like Coldplay!) – that’s even more powerful.

Turn up the Heat

All you need now is the transition to PHYSICAL connection. Ah, that’s always a great place to trip yourself up, isn’t it?

Well, fear not. Just read on.

Derek Vitalio

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Why Develop a Showcase Skill
April 6, 2008, 10:33 pm
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Showcase skills

Many men like to have different tricks and skills to impress women. That’s great, but it needs to come from a REAL place inside of you. Don’t brag about it – just let it become a natural part of your being. And the women will love you for it.

Major Steps in Improving Yourself

Let’s take a moment now – before we get into the REAL nitty-gritty – to talk a bit about some self-improvement that will help you in a MAJOR way when dealing with the opposite sex (or same sex, if you like – I don’t care, and it’ll work either way).

You need to develop a showcase skill. Seriously. This is HUGE.

And it’s far from an overnight thing. In fact, if you dedicate yourself to this in a major way, it’ll be around half a year before you have anything worth crowing about.

But it’s worth it. In fact, this goes way beyond the dating scene and will help out your whole being in basically every facet of life. We’re talking huge a huge increase in your social value. Troubles polishing the confidence? This’ll do it. Running out of interesting topics by your fourth date? You’ll always have this nuke. Having lots of fun with a string of ladies, but hunkering for something more meaningful? Here’s the key.

DON’T SHOW OFF

We’ll talk more about why this is such a good thing in a bit, but first, some warnings. You do NOT want to show off. You DON’T want to bring all conversations ‘round to this. In fact, you don’t want to mention it at all.

Listen, relaxed confidence – as we’ve discussed ad nauseum – is HUGE when dealing with women, and probably the most important ingredient in any successful approach. But there’s a fine line you tread here – and going from confident to cocky can be a BIG error.

We humans aren’t dumb. And one thing most people learn over the years – especially hot women who get an unasked for doctorate in male psychology – is that people often overplay their weaknesses.

It’s a classic defense system. A person is deficient in some area, so they try to talk themselves up. If a guy can’t stop bragging about how many women he’s bagged, it either means he’s telling the truth – and every man hates him for it – or, more likely, he’s a virgin (or close to it).

You probably know this intuitively if not consciously, and when you think about it a little bit, it helps explain all sorts of odd behavior we encounter over the years. I mean, how many times do we need to see our insanely micromanaging colleague with the screwed up personal life before we make this connection? And I don’t mean see it in one person in an isolated instance – I mean seeing it in MOST of the misplaced frustration of EVERYONE we encounter.

Psychology calls it projection.

It’s corollary is false boasting. And when you cross the line between being confident and being boaster, people start to question why you have to talk yourself up so much. Hence, your social value decreases. Somewhere in their brain your brags begin to sound like insecurity. Watch any teen flick and you’ll see this pattern play out over and over again.

DON’T SHOW OFF, but also DON’T BE WEAK

Ok, great, now we’re directly stating that you want to avoid showing OFF at all costs, but you want to keep that confidence and a certain AIR of cockiness around. So what do we do?

Of course, your first line of defense is being playful. If you can make any brag into a bit of comedy, you avoid most of the pitfalls. Like if I hear a date say something about how gorgeous a man is – say, Brad Pitt – I’ll usually retort, “Yeah, he’s pretty good looking. Not as handsome as ME, of course, but not bad – for an actor.”

See what I just did? Here’s a hint: I mixed my signals.

While I was talking about how great I am, I also inserted a little self-deprecation. I mean, demeaning a Hollywood stud’s looks in comparison to just about ANYONE is funny because it’s ridiculous. If I looked like Brad Pitt, I’D be getting $20 mil per flick. It’s a JOKE.

But at the same time, I don’t back down. I don’t act threatened, and I don’t raise a guard. In short, I look COOL.

This is VERY powerful – because it short-circuits or passes many insecurity tests that will be thrown your way.

Depth and Conviction

But at the same time, you don’t want to JUST be witty. Believe it or not, that gets old. Faster than you think.

If you want to have any relationship beyond a fling at any point, you’re going to need some SUBSTANCE.

At heart, a person without interests isn’t interesting. And that’s where your showcase skill comes in.

Again – and I can’t stress this enough – DON’T TALK ABOUT IT. Whatever it is, the subject will eventually come up naturally. Force it, and you stray into show-off territory.

Let it arise passively, and you look legit. After all, if you’re SO confident that you don’t NEED to talk about it, then the talent must be real.

Genius, not I

Alright, I know plenty of you are thinking something like “Yeah, if you play guitar like Hendrix, but I’m an ordinary dude.” Think again.

You don’t need to be extraordinary. Hell, you don’t even need to be that good. What you NEED is the proof of dedication to something not directly related to scoring.

Even if that’s what you’re really after.

Why? Suddenly you become a three-dimensional person. You take yourself straight out of any possible sleazy category and become a more complete human.

Plus, the confidence from knowing that you’re operating at something close to full potential at something is like the aphrodisiac chemists have wet dreams about.

Because most insecurity is, at root, the belief that we could be doing better.

Think about that a little bit. It’s a deeper statement than most.

So pick something. Anything. It doesn’t matter what – ok, going on about your Star Trek Club rank might be too dweeby, but MOST anything will work fine.

As long as you have interest in it and you pursue it with PASSION, that passion gets communicated. You become a hot-blooded latin lover when the topic arises. You defeat any fears the woman might have that you are some one-dimensional pickup machine, and you get sexier in the process.

Getting Involved

Your homework for this? Simple. Figure out what you love. If you already know, great, keep at it and don’t SHOW OFF, but at the same time don’t be shy. Let it be a natural extension of yourself that will come out whenever it’s appropriate.

If you don’t know, spend a little time getting a grip on it. Apply some double-think – you shouldn’t do it JUST to get women (although it will help you tremendously), but you should do it because you LOVE it.

Develop the passions in yourself, and you’ll develop your pheromone appeal in the process.

Some guys like to get into magic because it’s a great ice-breaker in social situations and in general is a wonderful social skill. But if you think it’s silly, DON’T DO IT. You’ll come off plastic. Better to find something you genuinely believe in.

In short, do this for YOU and your own convictions. The women will follow.

Derek Vitalio

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Developing A Seducers Identity
March 19, 2008, 1:05 am
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I recommend printing these questions off and answering them.

If you have your identity sorted and purpose in life you will be able to answer all of them.

(1) Get in touch with your true passions and true purpose – its way more unusual to be in touch with your true purpose than be directionless or have other people controlling your life as most people are.

(a) What are your special talents?
(b) What things do you do that feel effortless and enjoyable?
(c) What things would you do if you had $1,000,000,000?
(d) What things give you energy, give you happiness, and give you enjoyment?
(e) What things could you try if you are not sure what these could be?
(f) What could you do today that would make your life more fun and more spontaneous?
(g) When is the last time you did something completely different?

Being in touch with your purpose in life give you sources of energy that are beyond normal power. It gives you confidence, an aura, a presence, and a state of mind that people want to be around.

Picture yourself as a 90 year old person looking back at their life. What would you have liked to have achieved so that you would consider your life to be fulfilling with few regrets?

(h) Do you have a secret passion that you wish you had done or could do? If so what is it?
(i) If you had all the money and the resources you needed and you could spend your life in anyway you choose – what would you do?
(j) Dream a little, what do you want your day to be like in exactly 1 year’s time?
(k) What is missing from your life right now?
(l) What obstacles are in your way right now that stops you achieving what you believe to be your ideal life or way of living?
(m) List 3 goals you would like to achieve.
(n) What is your idea of the perfect day?
(o) What is your idea of success?

Getting in touch with your inner purpose is a life changing experience. Flirt with the idea. If you like painting, paint for 1 hour per week, if its real estate, buy some magazines and books. Ever seen a person who just looks amazingly content?

(2) If someone was to describe you in one line what would they say?

(a) What one paragraph sums you up?
(b) When you write an online dating, or Myspace profile do you know who you are?
(c) Do you know your goals, your life, and your identity?
(d) What are the best things about you?
(e) Are you the fun guy?
(f) Are you the serious guy?
(g) Are you the guy who is writing a book?

(3) What are your friends like?

What do your friends say about you?

(4) What can people guess about you by your tastes?

(a) What’s your favorite drink?
(b) Are you outgoing or shy?
(c) What music do you listen to?
(d) What image do you portray?
(e) What car do you drive?
(f) What job do you have?
(g) Where do you live?
(h) Where have you been?
(i) What’s your goal for the year?
(j) What’s your income bracket?
(k) What industry do you work in?
(l) What do you like to talk about?
(m) What movies do you like to watch?
(n) What books do you like to read?
(o) What hobbies do you do?
(p) What sort of holidays do you like?
(q) What is your status on moral and political issues?
(r) What are your values?
(s) What is your relationship status?
(t) What were you like as a child?
(u) What’s your favorite thing to do with a girl?
(v) Where do your parents live?
(w) What is your relationship with your mother?
(x) How often do you talk to your family?
(y) Where did you meet your friends?
(z) What’s your favorite thing to do on a Sunday?
(aa) What’s the most creative thing you do?

(5) What sexually attractive icon do you relate to?

(a) A sensual lover like Johnny Depp in Don Juan?
(b) A tough muscled bad boy
(c) A talented misunderstood artist
(d) A rocker or punk
(e) A powerful businessman, Trump style
(f) A sexy dancer
(g) A reliable family guy, dependable, strong
(h) An adventurer
(i) An entrepreneur like Richard Branson, dashing, brave
(j) A beautiful baby faced cute guy
(k) Jude Law type charm
(l) Hugh Grant styled funny and charming

(6) What is your week like?

(a) How much do you work?
(b) How much do you stay home?
(c) How much do your socialise?
(d) How much do you do hobbies?
(e) How much do you exercise?
(f) How much do you sleep?
(g) What are your priorities?
(h) What is a great week for you?

(7) What makes you unique?

(a) What have you done on your own with no help from anyone?
(b) What are you most proud of?
(c) What attitudes of yours are non-conforming?
(d) What belief do you hold that you don’t care what people think about?
(e) What have you done that not many people can do?
(f) What is your most valued skill?
(g) When was your feeling of most content?
(h) What period of your life felt the most fun?
(i) When were you most attractive to women?
(j) What are you working on now that will set you apart from the crowd?
(k) What are your favorite excuses?
(l) What are your biggest obstacles?
(m) What is printed on your wall as your biggest goal?
(n) What do you want most?
(o) How can you stand out more in the future?
(p) How you can help other people most?
(q) If you have a school reunion in 5 years what would you like to have achieved?

(8) What super powers lie inside you?

a. How can you be truly great?
b. How can you create a legacy?
c. How can you be remembered 100 years after you die?
d. How can you be truly great?
e. Who believes in you most on the earth?
f. What is the best use of your time?
g. What will you be most proud of when you die?
h. What do you want people to say at your funeral?
i. If you were diagnosed with a terminal cancer and had 3 months to live right now how would you spend it?
j. Where do you want to go most in the world?
k. What’s your dream home?
l. What is truly great about you?
m. What game plan do you have to get yourself out of depressing states?
n. What is your level of self belief like?
o. Do you know what you are worth?
p. Do you go out and get what you are worth?
q. How can you increase what you are worth in your mind?
r. Are you worth your goals?
s. What gives you energy in your life?

(9) How can you develop a global identity?

McDonalds has what they call a global identity.

(a) How can you break free from your local social conditioning and be part of something much bigger?
(b) How can you be a recognizable face?

(10) Incisive questions

(a) If you knew you could do it, what would the first step be?
(b) If you knew you had the skill necessary, what is the first thing you would do?
(c) If you were not afraid, what would you do?
(d) If you began to care more about yourself rather than what other people think of you, how would you feel / what would you do?
(e) If you had to make one change in your work / home life today, what would that question be?
(f) If you knew you were good enough / attractive enough, what would change for you?
(g) If you knew you were worth it, what would you want?
(h) If you had 50% more confidence in yourself, what would you be doing / what would be different?
(i) If you knew you were a leader, what would you be leading?
(j) For things to be perfect, what would have to change?
(k) If you could change something in your environment, what would you change?
(l) If you knew that change was painless and easy, what would you change about yourself?
(m) If you knew decision making was easy, what immediate decision would you make?

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Seduction Indirect Negging
March 19, 2008, 1:00 am
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You can use your attention to indirectly neg.

I’ve been experimenting with a new attraction routine, and getting good results with it.

WARNING – Do not use this technique during comfort or seduction phases – it’s instant death.

Background/Theory:

When a super hot woman walks past a group of men, or even a single man, she is used to getting attention from them. This gives her power over them, which decreases her attraction level towards them, while boosting her ego. You might say that there is an inverse relationship between ego and attraction.

AFC’s are almost powerless to resist looking, nay, GAWKING at such a creature, and this is their doom – she becomes alpha, and they beta.

Instead, try this – IGNORE the HB, and then, when she hovers, BLATANTLY check out other women when they pass by, such that she notices you checking out other HBs.

This has a very powerful effect – you will see them start to straighten their clothes and hair, and start sending you other assorted IOI’s. They will open easily, kino easily, and close easily.

This demonstrates the importance of being stingy with your ATTENTION. Most men are whores when it comes to giving up their attention.

Use your eyes to neg!

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Sexual State
March 19, 2008, 12:56 am
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This post is about getting into sexual state,and being able to easily turn this on or off
depending on the woman in front of you, with ease and freedom of choice, COMBINED WITH the
need to be present.  Students from Adam Lyons Bootcamp have said they teach sexual state very well.

Re PRESENCE: I have been doing a lot of research lately on the female concept of
creepiness . Women can decide instantly when they find a man to be creepy, but they
cannot often easily define HOW or WHY. My conclusion is that there is an incongruence
in the man, that his outer actions are not matching his inner state. Either that, or he
is “checked out” mentally; ie he may have lust in his eyes, or some other emotion, and
yet be strangely disconnected from the woman in front of him. That’s my definition of
creepiness. Thoughts?

A couple of weeks back I mentioned in a thread how I was altering my visualization
practices. I noticed that in my porn viewing habits cultivated over DECADES, that I was in
the position of VOYEUR to the scene, and that this had a definite and profound effect on my
inner game. Some guys expressed surprise and disbelief at this, but to me now it’s OBVIOUS…

Just look at virtually any porno and the entire psychological frame is with you in the
position of voyeur. Perhaps this is changing a bit now with the popularity of the “POV”
porn.

Anyway, in the book No More Mister Nice Guy author Dr. Glover suggests that we eliminate
porn entirely, and we use visualization in the way I am suggesting: putting yourself in
a powerful and masculine and active – as opposed to passive – role in whatever scene
you choose to create in the mind. Due to literally decades of relying on visual
stimulus, I have found it very difficult to climax using my imagination alone. And when
I did, I tended to drift back to voyeuristic fantasies that I had developed through porn.

I think I’ve now found a good interim solution. The solution I derived is to only
watch porn which is female solo masturbation. Then I imagine she is fantasizing about ME
and about ME fucking her. It’s a convoluted trick, I know, but the only effective one
I’ve come up with so far. And I can also confess that even THIS is difficult, in terms
of being able to reach a climax, but it’s more effective than anything else I’ve found,
and it’s getting easier and more pleasurable with determined practice. Find more advice from pua websites.

My game is MILES ahead of where I was even a few short years ago. But even to this day,
there are many occasions where I have found myself having a great time with a woman,
great conversation, then we part ways and suddenly I realize I have completely failed
to escalate… I have kept things on a purely platonic level. Congratulations man, you
now have created Pivot #4593898538958. Yes, I try to escalate at that point, but the
realization that this woman considers me platonic and its entirely of my making is
still somewhat startling in that moment. There may of course be better or more
efficient ways to get ones mind into my desired position, and I am excited to hear
about them. My goal as stated at the outset is to be able to turn on and off the sexual
state by my own free will, and simultaneously to be present with whomever I am
interacting with, either male or female, UG or HB.

Some say that your sexual state should always be ON, but I don’t think that’s entirely true.
It should be calibrated and the woman receiving that transmission should
QUALIFY for it in some way. If it’s only her great ass that turns you on, I think you’ve
got to find a way to convey that in the most authentic (yet still tactful) way possible.

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